One of the biggest mistakes people make when they think they’re being cheated on is allowing themselves to be manipulated. This is where you start to think that you’re being cheated on, but your better half convinces you that you’re not. What you need to know is that men and women manipulate differently.

Women manipulate men physically. They do this by using their bodies (think SEX here). A woman can pretty much get a man to think or do whatever they want by offering sex, or at least physical contact. For example, if you’re a man and your woman starts to think that you’re “catching on” to what she’s doing behind your back, she’ll offer herself physically as a method of changing your mind. Maybe she’ll have sex with you. Maybe she will just let you put your arm around her. Maybe she’ll just let you touch her while she’s sitting next to you on the couch watching TV. In any event, she’ll offer you some sort of physical interaction that will make you think “gee, maybe she isn’t cheating on me”. If you’re a man, remember this….women control almost all physical encounters. After all, if a woman says “NO”, it’s rape.

The same rules don’t apply to men. Now on the other side of the coin, men will manipulate by EMOTION. A man can get a woman to think or do whatever he wants by pretty much just saying what she wants to hear (or doing some little romantic trick like sending flowers). A man can sweep a woman off her feet with just words. A simple “I love you” or “you’re everything I’ve ever wanted and more” can emotionally melt most women.

So these are the things you need to watch out for. If you think your lover is cheating on you, and then all of a sudden they do something “to make everything alright”, you my friend have just been manipulated. I know of men (who’s wives or girlfriends were cheating on them) who bought expensive jewelry for their woman just because of some type of physical contact. I know of women (who’s husbands or boyfriends were cheating on them) who dropped the whole notion of infidelity just because of receiving flowers or getting a loving message left on their answering machine. You need to be completely aware of manipulation like this in your relationship. If you’ve been emotionally abused or physically neglected for a time, and then all of a sudden something changes that makes you happy and relieved, odd’s are you’re being manipulated. Some women call this a “mercy …”. Some men call this “throwing her off the trail”. In any event, you’re letting your NEEDS open the door for your lover to keep cheating on you, undetected.

Manipulation is a very important key to look out for. If you’re “starving” for something in your relationship and then all of a sudden you get “fed”, well, there’s a reason for that. And that reason is that your lover may be thinking you’re “on to them”. Manipulation is the FIRST thing they’ll use to shut you up. Watch out for it and don’t fall for it! Remember what was said here!

You know there is someone else. She’s evasive, but she covers it up with a lot of sweetness. When you say you suspect, she cools you down and tells you how much she loves you. She’s not unfaithful – you’re just paranoid.

How does she keep getting away with it?

Many times, the victim of a cheater will know what is happening. They have a gut feeling that tells them their partner is up to no good. They might even have some evidence that points to what the cheater is doing behind their back.

But they will sweep it all under the rug and pretend they don’t know! Is that what your girlfriend is doing to you?

A cheater will have their fun, and then they will come home and do damage control. If you tell your girlfriend you suspect something, or if you confront her and ask her point-black where she has been, she will probably put on a sad front.

She will ask you why you don’t trust her. She will say she’s been faithful to you. She might even provide instances where she COULD have cheated. Where she was offered the CHANCE. But she didn’t take it. See how much she loves you?

A cheating girlfriend is a master of psychological warfare. She will tell you one thing while she does another. She will turn on the charm, take you to bed, make love to you until you think everything is okay. Then she will go about her merry way and do it all again!

If you dare to question her, you’re the one in the wrong. If you have that gut feeling about what she’s doing behind your back, you’re paranoid. And if you spy on her, well – you’re just looking for a way out of a good relationship!

Beware of the girlfriend who tries to soothe things over with affection. She will try to make you run on emotion, not on logic. She will hide her cheating behind a pouty façade and make you believe you might be going crazy. How could you blame such an innocent person for something so terrible?

Don’t let her play you anymore! She’s using your libido and your heart against you. Watch for the signs, and when you see them, don’t let her weasel her way out of them. Get the rock-solid proof so that you can confront her.

But how do you start? How can you get the proof?

It may be ok if you are alone at home to play alone or against a couple of friends. However, if you play online against several people, you want all the advantages you can. Knowing where some elements are hidden, and the combination of keys that will give you something more is very important. You can find all the answers to your Nintendo Wii games with the cheats.

There are books you can buy that have the tricks and cheats in them for every game that Nintendo makes. This is going to be your mini Bible for getting through these games. You can also go online to various websites to access them. Some of the sites will feature them for free while others want you to pay for a subscription or for that one time information. Do your best to get the information for free.

You can also get plenty of cheats from other Nintendo users on the various blogs, forums, and chat rooms scattered all over the internet. Of course you need to be willing to share your information too. Don’t be out there getting what you can without offering anything in return to others.

Many argue that these cheats out there though take the excitement out of the game. What happened to continuing to try until you figured it all out on your own? Many players have come to the conclusion though that there are too many variables that can take place. That is very true with most of the Nintendo games out there that are newer. So it can take you a very long time to master it all on your own.

Yet one argument is that these cheats teach children to rely on that information instead of logic. They aren’t taking the complex puzzle and breaking it down to get their own strategy in place. That used to be one of the benefits of video games as they were exercising the brain in that way. With the cheats though it is more like reading a manual of what to do when and then implementing it.

Still, there is a great deal of concentration and memorization that needs to take place to successfully use these cheats. You can’t play the game effectively if you have to stop and look at the cheats and then do them constantly in the game. You will have to decide for yourself if you want to work the game out on its own or go for the cheats.

Having them can prevent you from becoming frustrated though. Maybe you’ve worked on the game for some time and can not seem to get through a certain section. Find a cheat that will not ruin the game for you. However, it will help you to pass this level and on the left much more to conquer.

So how can your husband get away with cheating? How can you not see what’s right there in your face? It’s happening behind your back and right under your nose. How does he do it?

A dedicated cheater is very, very careful – especially at first. They will spend hours trying to figure out if they left any sign of their infidelity. They will plan very carefully, and then they will watch you like a hawk. If you show any signs at all of being suspicious, they will stop cheating – for a while.

But once they are comfortable in the knowledge that you don’t know what they did, they will be tempted to go back for another round. Then another. And finally, they are having a full-fledged affair. But they are always careful to cover their tracks.

He’s a very good liar. A cheater who really wants to continue what he’s doing will find ways to lie that would make the most talented fiction writer proud. He will omit details of where he’s been. He will set up alibis that seem airtight. He will learn to lie right to your face, looking right into your eyes – and then convince himself it’s alright, because “what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her.”

He might lie so often and so well, he actually begins to believe the lies himself!

Even if you do see through the lies and alibis, you might not acknowledge what is happening. Sometimes, the knowledge of what your husband is doing is so hard to deal with, you might find it easier to look the other way. Many men get away with cheating because their spouses weren’t ready to hear the truth.

And who could blame you? Cheating tears families apart, and nobody wants that to happen to them.

No matter the reason, cheating husbands do manage to get away with it. The vast majority of cheaters might never be caught! You can protect yourself by paying the utmost attention to your husband’s actions and whereabouts.

Don’t take what he says at face value, no matter how much you trust him. If you are wondering about an affair, you are already to the point of not trusting him, aren’t you?

Most of all, pay attention to that gut feeling that says something is wrong. If you feel as though something is out of place, then you’re right – it is.

Now’s the time to find out what’s really happening.